multitasking doesn’t work, here’s what you can do instead

Let’s admit it, it’s super easy to get distracted in this day and age. (Ever walked into another room in your home only to get there and wonder why you went there in the first place? 🙋 yup, me too.)

It’s not a personal fault of yours if you find your attention pulled in a many directions throughout your day.

Numerous studies have shown that trying to concentrate on more than one thing at once overloads our prefrontal cortex and causes our decision-making and complex planning skills to go “offline.” No bueno.

Doing one task at a time is the most efficient way to complete a given task, yet it can be hard in practice.

Figuring out where to focus, what to do first, and what most needs your attention can be a struggle.

Here are three steps I use to help.

1. Start with a focusing question.

I LOVE asking myself the powerful question from The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan:

What's the ONE THING you can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?

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2. Take a breath and visualize success.

Once you’ve determined your “ONE THING,” close your eyes for a moment. Take a few deep breaths to quiet your mind and go inward and let go of external distractions. Clearly imagine yourself accomplishing every step of the task from beginning to its successful completion in as much detail as possible. Imagine any obstacles that might come up and how you would handle them. Imagine how you'll feel when you finally check this off your to do list. After working through everything in your mind, open your eyes and direct your full attention to the task in front of you.

3. Take action and do it.

Set a timer for 20 minutes and jump right in. Continue doing what you have already mentally rehearsed until it's done, or until you need to stop or shift to focus your full attention onto the next important task. I've found that I can do anything for 20 mins - and often the hardest thing is simply starting, so for me a timer adds a sprinkle of motivation. It can also help to start your "ONE THING" first thing in the morning because willpower tends to dwindle throughout the day. A fresh mind is a focused mind!

I hope these three tips help you focus on what matters and then make progress towards your goal.

May you find joy in the hustle,


p.s. And if you find yourself getting stressed/overwhelmed/frustrated, use this 5 minute meditation practice to reset before starting this process. It'll work wonders to shift your energy and get you ready for your next task.

what to do when you’re anxious

Anxiety has come a-knocking on my door lately so I wanted to share a few tips for how I deal with this unwanted (and sometimes debilitating) guest.

Often when we’re feeling anxious, our first step is to be angry with ourselves thinking: why am I feeling this way? Or, what’s wrong with me and why can’t I “handle” this or that?

We think our anxiety is completely and totally our fault.

We can get frustrated that we can’t “just relax.”

(🙋 Double whammy for me -- my meditations have been played nearly a million times (!!!) to help people relax, yet at times, I am anything but chill. My daughter even told me once in an exasperated voice, "Mama, why are you always rushing me?!?! #gulp #work-in-progress)

Here’s what helps when I'm feeling rushed, stressed or anxious:

1. Feel what you’re feeling and start to name it.

Notice the body sensations you’re experiencing and start to say them aloud to yourself. “This is anxiety. My heart is beating fast. My stomach feels tight. I feel a weight on my chest.”

2. Shift from your head to your heart.

Oftentimes when we’re caught in anxiety, we’re stuck in the thinking mind, and it can be helpful to connect with the heart. Imagine moving your energy from your head to your heart space. Picture yourself breathing in and out from your heart center. Try this five minute meditation to guide you through this process.

3. Take a self-compassion break and talk yourself through it.

You can repeat the following phrases to yourself with your hand on your heart or use this guided meditation to support you.

I’m having a tough time right now and this is uncomfortable.

We all feel anxiety from time to time.

I’m not alone in this.

May I be kind to myself in this moment and give myself the compassion I need.

4. Actively comfort yourself.

Once you've practiced self-compassion, you might feel ready to take action to actively soothe yourself. Perhaps it would feel beneficial to take a walk outside? Or do some deep belly breathing? Or take a few minutes to pause and hold a warm cup of tea? Or call a friend? Take one small action to soothe yourself for feeling this way and remind yourself that you are worth it.

When we stub our toe or otherwise injure ourselves physically, we quickly and automatically comfort ourselves.

Yet when we experience emotional discomfort we are typically slow to acknowledge the pain it causes and even slower to actively comfort ourselves.

I hope these tips help you notice when anxiety or other disturbing emotions are present, so you can remember to be kind and take action to comfort yourself.

You are not alone in getting stressed and anxious from time to time.

And you are worthy and deserving of self-compassion in these moments and all others.

big news

Sharing your story gave me hope. Sharing the skills you learned along the way made me resilient af.jpg

I’m finally ready to come out of my cocoon and share something BIG.

After months of planning and years of “doing the work” I’m finally ready to share my newest creation with you that’s all about becoming #ResilientAF.

(since someone asked... Resilient AF means Ridiculously, Incredibly Resilient 😉)

I’ve poured my heart into this course and have personally walked the walk and used all of these tools to bounce back after hitting my own version of rock bottom five years ago.

Imagine losing everything that defines you. Everything your self-worth is based on is gone.

Could you come back from that?

I’m here to tell you that YOU CAN.

But more than just telling you that you can…

I’m also going to share the exact steps I used to rebuild my confidence, reset and become even stronger along the way.

As some of you might know, five years ago, I lost more than my job, dignity and self-worth … I lost my sanity.

About a month after the birth of my first daughter, I began suffering from a rare variant of postpartum depression that in addition to crippling depression comes with a side of psychosis. This happens due to sleep deprivation, stress and the rapidly changing brain chemistry in the weeks after giving birth.

So instead of snuggling with my beautiful newborn daughter, I spent several weeks hallucinating that police helicopters were swarming my house, hunting me down for a crime I did not commit.

No bueno.

And it got worse from there, at some point I told my family it would be better for everyone if I just jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge...and that landed me in a psychiatric hospital for 10 days.

(my TEDx Talk shares more of my story if you’re curious.)

I had gone from teaching workshops at the likes of Google, Salesforce and Microsoft on mindfulness and wellbeing...

to being a mindfulness teacher who had lost her mind.

When I was finally released from the psych ward, I was certain that this would be a secret I’d take to the grave.

Saying I was embarrassed about what happened doesn’t come close to describing the feeling, it was more like a thick fog of shame.

I thought I was the world’s worst mother and I felt ashamed, and worried that everyone that had known me as a confident, capable, savvy person would secretly question whether I was still all there.

Would people trust my advice? Would my family even trust me watching my daughter? Could I trust myself?

After a few tough weeks full of self-pity, I realized suddenly: NO, I would not let that happen.

No more asking why did this happen, why me? No more self-blame.

This would not be a dark secret I kept hidden, I needed to find a way to turn this into something good.

I was determined to pull myself back up and come back stronger than I was before, but the path forward was unclear.

I told myself I’d figure out how to help myself and other people and turn this mishap into a triumph.

And I did. Over a series of months I recovered.

In my new course, I share the strategies I learned the HARD WAY – specifically around how to create a resilient mindset so you can squash self-doubt and become stronger, more courageous, and even more joyful on the journey that is life.

So whether you've experienced burnout, a major life or professional change, temporary setback or just feel like you've lost your mojo, this course is for you.

Lisa's Resilient AF Course

So if you’re interested in being a part of this Resilient AF course (which I hope you are!), sign up today.

I’d be honored to have you join my class.

6 Myths About Mindful Parenting

Mindfulness is a very popular concept these days, and there is a mindfulness practice for just about everything — Mindful Eating, Mindful Walking, Mindful Leadership, etc. Mindfulness is about paying attention to the present moment without judging it. Sounds simple, but it’s not easy. You know what else isn’t easy? Raising children. It’s actually hard — really hard.

Raising children in today’s increasingly complex and stress-filled world can make our jobs as parents feel nearly impossible. There are a lot of misconceptions about what it means to bring mindfulness to parenting, so I’d like to dispel some of the biggest myths once and for all.

1. Practicing mindful parenting takes a lot of time.

The good news here for all you busy parents is that mindful parenting doesn’t take any additional time out of your already jam-packed day. It’s not another thing you have to add to your to-do list. Practicing mindfulness is the act of bringing non-judgemental attention to what you’re doing in this very moment, over and over and over again. But if you’re wanting some tips on how to get started, you can always try this five-minute meditation to help center yourself and remind you to be mindful throughout your day.

2. Mindful parenting is all about your children.

Although it’s true that your undivided attention will benefit your children in numerous ways, mindful parenting will actually enrich your life as parent because you’ll get a front row seat to the joy and wonder of your children’s experiences. By bringing your full attention and curiosity to reading Brown Bear, Brown Bear for the eleventh time, you might notice that it’s strange that the Purple Cat and Blue Horse are the only animals with non-realistic colors. But in all seriousness, you’ll be surprised at what you notice when you start to bring a “beginner’s mind” to everything you do.

3. Mindful parents are anti-technology.

This just isn’t the case, and there are actually a lot of technological innovations that can help you be more mindful, such as the free app Insight Timer, which helps you track your daily meditation sessions, and the Spire device, which tracks your breathing patterns to help keep you calm. Many mindful parents do in fact choose to limit technology in their households or at least set firm boundaries about acceptable use. Some parents even choose to create formal “Family Technology Contracts” where they can stipulate that devices are not allowed at the dinner table or after 9 PM, for example.

4. All mindful parents meditate.

Meditation surely helps, but it’s not an absolute requirement for mindful parenting. Meditation helps train your brain so you can notice when your attention wanders and then bring it back to the present moment. I like to think of meditation as mental bicep curls — they will surely make you stronger, but so will picking up the groceries.

5. Mindful parenting is a Buddhist endeavor.

Anyone can practice mindful parenting, Buddhist or not. There are many secular meditation practices that can help you create a meditation habit, even in just a few minutes a day like my 30 Day Meditation Challenge here. Remember, meditation is not the only path to mindfulness, but it’s something to help train your brain to notice each time your mind has wandered off.

6. Mindful parents don’t get angry.

Leaving the best for last, wouldn’t it be great if you could just practice mindfulness and and live happily ever after in a state of bliss? Sorry to burst your bubble but it’s not going to happen. Things are still going to bother you, and your 2-year-old daughter will probably still throw an occasional full-blown tantrum, especially when leaving the American Girl store empty-handed (sore subject for the author).

In summary…

Although there are many myths, mindful parenting is simply about slowing down and noticing what’s going on right here and right now without judging it or trying to change it.

Mindful parenting is not another thing to add to your to-do list or another way to compete in the parenting Olympics. Mindful parents believe everyone is doing the best they can, including themselves. They try to create a safe environment to talk about their feelings and what they’re experiencing. They make a point to create rituals that foster connection.

They also know how challenging it can be when they’re overwhelmed and exhausted. And they also know that when their patience is running thin, that this too shall pass.


YES!!! Welcome to this 30 Day Meditation Challenge and thank you for joining me. I'm so glad you're here and I can't wait for you to see how things shift for you in these next 30 Days.

1. Commitment

I invite you to honor your commitment to this 30 Day Challenge by taking it seriously and showing up. Small steps lead to big change.

Set aside five minutes each day to do this practice, I recommend doing it first thing in the morning right after you wake up if possible. Or right after you drop off your kids at school or as soon as you get to your desk in the morning - it doesn't matter the exact time, but it'll be easier if you do the practice at the same time each day. 

2. Accountability Partner

Invite a friend to be your accountability partner - better yet, invite a friend to do this challenge with you! 

Ask someone to check in with you every day or at least twice a week to see how it’s going.

You'll be more likely to stay on track with peer support. Do it - send a text to your best friend now and ask her/him to join you in this 30 Day Challenge. 

3. Self-Compassion

There is no ‘“Right” way to meditate. Be gentle with yourself. Appreciate yourself for making this commitment.

Give yourself a big pat on the back right now just for showing up. Investing in yourself is the most important thing you can do, and you WILL see positive results because of patient and honor your process.

4. Location

Create a sacred place where you will meditate each day. This could be a cozy corner in your bedroom with a candle lit, or perhaps you do it on the same bench outside during your lunch break at work each afternoon.

You will need to find a place where you will not be interrupted and you can sit comfortably with your eyes closed. 

5. Hydration

I recommend getting a large glass of water and setting it near you before you begin each day’s meditation, and then drinking the water at the end of your practice.

This is a great ritual to set yourself up for success the rest of the day.

6. Focus

Please don't multi-task while listening to these meditations. You will not receive the full benefit of the practice. You will be using your phone to link to the audios, and while it may be tempting, we recommend you do not check other email first thing in the morning and instead go straight to the meditation link.  Life Hack: You can even set up a search in your inbox for "Lisa Abramson" so that the meditation email is the only one you see. 

It will be easier for you to get into the quiet space of meditation if you do not check email first.

7. Have Fun!

This is my daughter Lucy telling you to go ahead and take a seat and start your meditation practice!

This is my daughter Lucy telling you to go ahead and take a seat and start your meditation practice!


And if you haven't signed up yet, there's still time! Join me and register now :)