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I’m finally ready to come out of my cocoon and share something BIG.

After months of planning and years of “doing the work” I’m finally ready to share my newest creation with you that’s all about becoming #ResilientAF.

(since someone asked... Resilient AF means Ridiculously, Incredibly Resilient 😉)

I’ve poured my heart into this course and have personally walked the walk and used all of these tools to bounce back after hitting my own version of rock bottom five years ago.

Imagine losing everything that defines you. Everything your self-worth is based on is gone.

Could you come back from that?

I’m here to tell you that YOU CAN.

But more than just telling you that you can…

I’m also going to share the exact steps I used to rebuild my confidence, reset and become even stronger along the way.

As some of you might know, five years ago, I lost more than my job, dignity and self-worth … I lost my sanity.

About a month after the birth of my first daughter, I began suffering from a rare variant of postpartum depression that in addition to crippling depression comes with a side of psychosis. This happens due to sleep deprivation, stress and the rapidly changing brain chemistry in the weeks after giving birth.

So instead of snuggling with my beautiful newborn daughter, I spent several weeks hallucinating that police helicopters were swarming my house, hunting me down for a crime I did not commit.

No bueno.

And it got worse from there, at some point I told my family it would be better for everyone if I just jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge...and that landed me in a psychiatric hospital for 10 days.

(my TEDx Talk shares more of my story if you’re curious.)

I had gone from teaching workshops at the likes of Google, Salesforce and Microsoft on mindfulness and wellbeing...

to being a mindfulness teacher who had lost her mind.

When I was finally released from the psych ward, I was certain that this would be a secret I’d take to the grave.

Saying I was embarrassed about what happened doesn’t come close to describing the feeling, it was more like a thick fog of shame.

I thought I was the world’s worst mother and I felt ashamed, and worried that everyone that had known me as a confident, capable, savvy person would secretly question whether I was still all there.

Would people trust my advice? Would my family even trust me watching my daughter? Could I trust myself?

After a few tough weeks full of self-pity, I realized suddenly: NO, I would not let that happen.

No more asking why did this happen, why me? No more self-blame.

This would not be a dark secret I kept hidden, I needed to find a way to turn this into something good.

I was determined to pull myself back up and come back stronger than I was before, but the path forward was unclear.

I told myself I’d figure out how to help myself and other people and turn this mishap into a triumph.

And I did. Over a series of months I recovered.

In my new course, I share the strategies I learned the HARD WAY – specifically around how to create a resilient mindset so you can squash self-doubt and become stronger, more courageous, and even more joyful on the journey that is life.

So whether you've experienced burnout, a major life or professional change, temporary setback or just feel like you've lost your mojo, this course is for you.

Lisa's Resilient AF Course

So if you’re interested in being a part of this Resilient AF course (which I hope you are!), sign up today.

I’d be honored to have you join my class.

6 Myths About Mindful Parenting

Mindfulness is a very popular concept these days, and there is a mindfulness practice for just about everything — Mindful Eating, Mindful Walking, Mindful Leadership, etc. Mindfulness is about paying attention to the present moment without judging it. Sounds simple, but it’s not easy. You know what else isn’t easy? Raising children. It’s actually hard — really hard.

Raising children in today’s increasingly complex and stress-filled world can make our jobs as parents feel nearly impossible. There are a lot of misconceptions about what it means to bring mindfulness to parenting, so I’d like to dispel some of the biggest myths once and for all.

1. Practicing mindful parenting takes a lot of time.

The good news here for all you busy parents is that mindful parenting doesn’t take any additional time out of your already jam-packed day. It’s not another thing you have to add to your to-do list. Practicing mindfulness is the act of bringing non-judgemental attention to what you’re doing in this very moment, over and over and over again. But if you’re wanting some tips on how to get started, you can always try this five-minute meditation to help center yourself and remind you to be mindful throughout your day.

2. Mindful parenting is all about your children.

Although it’s true that your undivided attention will benefit your children in numerous ways, mindful parenting will actually enrich your life as parent because you’ll get a front row seat to the joy and wonder of your children’s experiences. By bringing your full attention and curiosity to reading Brown Bear, Brown Bear for the eleventh time, you might notice that it’s strange that the Purple Cat and Blue Horse are the only animals with non-realistic colors. But in all seriousness, you’ll be surprised at what you notice when you start to bring a “beginner’s mind” to everything you do.

3. Mindful parents are anti-technology.

This just isn’t the case, and there are actually a lot of technological innovations that can help you be more mindful, such as the free app Insight Timer, which helps you track your daily meditation sessions, and the Spire device, which tracks your breathing patterns to help keep you calm. Many mindful parents do in fact choose to limit technology in their households or at least set firm boundaries about acceptable use. Some parents even choose to create formal “Family Technology Contracts” where they can stipulate that devices are not allowed at the dinner table or after 9 PM, for example.

4. All mindful parents meditate.

Meditation surely helps, but it’s not an absolute requirement for mindful parenting. Meditation helps train your brain so you can notice when your attention wanders and then bring it back to the present moment. I like to think of meditation as mental bicep curls — they will surely make you stronger, but so will picking up the groceries.

5. Mindful parenting is a Buddhist endeavor.

Anyone can practice mindful parenting, Buddhist or not. There are many secular meditation practices that can help you create a meditation habit, even in just a few minutes a day like my 30 Day Meditation Challenge here. Remember, meditation is not the only path to mindfulness, but it’s something to help train your brain to notice each time your mind has wandered off.

6. Mindful parents don’t get angry.

Leaving the best for last, wouldn’t it be great if you could just practice mindfulness and and live happily ever after in a state of bliss? Sorry to burst your bubble but it’s not going to happen. Things are still going to bother you, and your 2-year-old daughter will probably still throw an occasional full-blown tantrum, especially when leaving the American Girl store empty-handed (sore subject for the author).

In summary…

Although there are many myths, mindful parenting is simply about slowing down and noticing what’s going on right here and right now without judging it or trying to change it.

Mindful parenting is not another thing to add to your to-do list or another way to compete in the parenting Olympics. Mindful parents believe everyone is doing the best they can, including themselves. They try to create a safe environment to talk about their feelings and what they’re experiencing. They make a point to create rituals that foster connection.

They also know how challenging it can be when they’re overwhelmed and exhausted. And they also know that when their patience is running thin, that this too shall pass.

GETTING STARTED WITH LISA'S 30 DAY MEDITATION CHALLENGE

YES!!! Welcome to this 30 Day Meditation Challenge and thank you for joining me. I'm so glad you're here and I can't wait for you to see how things shift for you in these next 30 Days.

1. Commitment

I invite you to honor your commitment to this 30 Day Challenge by taking it seriously and showing up. Small steps lead to big change.

Set aside five minutes each day to do this practice, I recommend doing it first thing in the morning right after you wake up if possible. Or right after you drop off your kids at school or as soon as you get to your desk in the morning - it doesn't matter the exact time, but it'll be easier if you do the practice at the same time each day. 

2. Accountability Partner

Invite a friend to be your accountability partner - better yet, invite a friend to do this challenge with you! 

Ask someone to check in with you every day or at least twice a week to see how it’s going.

You'll be more likely to stay on track with peer support. Do it - send a text to your best friend now and ask her/him to join you in this 30 Day Challenge. 

3. Self-Compassion

There is no ‘“Right” way to meditate. Be gentle with yourself. Appreciate yourself for making this commitment.

Give yourself a big pat on the back right now just for showing up. Investing in yourself is the most important thing you can do, and you WILL see positive results because of this...be patient and honor your process.

4. Location

Create a sacred place where you will meditate each day. This could be a cozy corner in your bedroom with a candle lit, or perhaps you do it on the same bench outside during your lunch break at work each afternoon.

You will need to find a place where you will not be interrupted and you can sit comfortably with your eyes closed. 

5. Hydration

I recommend getting a large glass of water and setting it near you before you begin each day’s meditation, and then drinking the water at the end of your practice.

This is a great ritual to set yourself up for success the rest of the day.

6. Focus

Please don't multi-task while listening to these meditations. You will not receive the full benefit of the practice. You will be using your phone to link to the audios, and while it may be tempting, we recommend you do not check other email first thing in the morning and instead go straight to the meditation link.  Life Hack: You can even set up a search in your inbox for "Lisa Abramson" so that the meditation email is the only one you see. 

It will be easier for you to get into the quiet space of meditation if you do not check email first.

7. Have Fun!

 This is my daughter Lucy telling you to go ahead and take a seat and start your meditation practice! 

This is my daughter Lucy telling you to go ahead and take a seat and start your meditation practice! 

 

And if you haven't signed up yet, there's still time! Join me and register now :)